Sunday, February 8, 2009

Does The Bad News Ever End??

I just found out that my (step)brother was diagnosed with thyroid cancer the other day. He is going for surgery tomorrow.

That's all I really know about the situation. Hopefully, I will learn more soon.

I just don't understand. I really don't. It's so not fair that good people are being punished like this. So. Not. Fair.

Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers.


Joc(e) said...

Oh no!! I'm so sorry, Ter...and so sorry for your brother. I hope his cancer is 100% treatable and he will be cured. I will be thinking about you all. *sigh* ((((BIG HUGS))))

Jo said...

OMG Ter! I am so sorry to hear this news :(

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers!

April said...

So glad you stopped by my blog...I love meeting new people! Sorry to hear about your brother's diagnosis and all you've been through. I lost my mom, brother, and dad in just 6 short years beginning in 2000. Life sure is fragile and had it not been for my faith in God, I'm not sure I could have survived.

Sending blessings your way...please come back anytime!

Jeanne said...


I am so sorry to hear about your brother! I hope his surgery goes well and that his treatment goes well.

I know of people who have been treated successfully for thyroid cancer.

I myself have thyroid nodules and after an ultrasound I had to have a fine needle biopsy done to rule out cancer. I was very fortunate that my nodules are benign and I just need an endocrinologist to follow them.

Recently, one of my blog readers posted a comment to my blog about a friend of hers who had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness.

I don't normally include links in blog comments but, in this case, I'm going to include the link to my blog post comments back to my reader, Kelly, regarding the subjects of death and dying.

My comments back to her include a link about Dr. Randy Pausch, author of "The Last Lecture".

I also told her about a cause called "Engage with Grace".

I'm including this link here because I thought you might find it helpful or supportive in some way.

If you prefer not to pass my comment through moderation, I will understand.

As I mentioned, I don't normally post links in blog comments but this particular comment back to my reader, Kelly, was helpful to her and I thought you might appreciate checking out Dr. Randy Pausch if you are not already familiar with him.

Ter, I am sending positive, peaceful thoughts your way!!


Sarah C. said...

Ter, so sorry to read this! Prayers for your stepbrother and that tomorrow's surgery is successful.

E and K Rausch said...

Ter, My sister in law went through this last year she is doing GREAT! I hope all goes well with him and my prayers are with you and your family at this time!

Why Do We Even Have That Lever? said...

Ok, so do not interpret this as "I don't care, I'm a jerk" but

Maybe this isn't a punishment. Maybe this is to teach something.

Every hero needs a trial, or else you wouldn't see them as a hero, right?

I don't think things like this happen as a punishment.

my Mom is the nicest most caring person I've ever met and probably will ever meet. My parents have taken in more "strays" (and by that, I mean teenaged boys and girls whose own family have given up on them) and converted them into good citizens (wow, now my famuily sounds like a cult!) :-)

She took the time to take many of them to court and get straightened out. Their own families had completely given up on these kids. She spent almost year going to court with Garrot every month and finally yelling at his lawyer to get it done already. My Dad got him a job that got him out of our house.

They also worked on several other kids over the years, not giving up on them. They haven't given up on my brother, and you know his story.

But, about a month after my wedding my Mom had surgery to repair some innards that were giving her problems, and then she got a horrible brain infection that she is still going for MRIs every six months to make sure that she is OK. She was on a horrible amount of steriods. She has a damaged nerve in her face because of it that has given her a droopy eye.

Then, she broke her leg. Nix that, she SHATTERED her leg. It took months and months to heal becuase of the steroids. The plate and rods and screws they used to put her leg back together, well, her body rejected the plate rigth away and she had to have surgery again to have it taken out. She will have to go soon and have all the screws taken out becaus they've come so far out of the bone that you can see the heads on the screws through her ankle.

She has had back injerys too.

Oh yah, and to top it all off, the original surgery that led to all of this? Didn't take. She still has the same problem. Oh, and she found out Friday that she has cataracts in her eyes, which is a side effect of the steriods.

What I'm saying is that no, she isn't being punished for something she has done. She looked after her uncle until he passed even though he was awful to her as a child. she is looking after her Mom now that her Dad has passed. She is an angel. Why does bad stuff happen to her? I don't know. But she isn't being punished.

now the bright sides:
the brain infection? She got to be home while I was on Mat Leave and we got to spend time together.

The broken leg: we got to spend more time together as I was still on Mat Leave.

the cataracts: She isn't even 55. She'll need surgery to repair them by age 56. Then she'll get 'free' laser eye surgery to correct the problem and enter her senior years with almost perfect eye sight and only need reading glasses.

So, look for some sort of silver lining. you haven't been given many ter, I know, but yours is coming.

Zil said...

Oh Ter, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking of you and your stepbrother.