tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6149858595771585997.post1206648709052447790..comments2021-02-05T20:54:02.171-06:00Comments on One Bear Hug at a Time: You Weren't Invited :(A Bear and His Honeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12393136151875608069noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6149858595771585997.post-25540042588400156082009-07-17T13:53:53.583-05:002009-07-17T13:53:53.583-05:00Gosh, I wish that I had some advice to give you. ...Gosh, I wish that I had some advice to give you. I would think (hope?) that if you do go and are upset/crying, that everyone would understand, and just admire you being there. But, if you feel like you just really and truly can't do it, I think you should give yourself that out too, and maybe explain it to your brother?<br />I hope that you find peace with whatever you decide. Wish your little baby bear was a chin-dimpled flower girl at the wedding...Caitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581232345782115891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6149858595771585997.post-90264264987005695442009-07-11T04:42:44.496-05:002009-07-11T04:42:44.496-05:00Hmm, this is a difficult one.
If you go it might ...Hmm, this is a difficult one.<br /><br />If you go it might be one of the toughest things you'll ever have done, that's for sure. Ok, here my opinion, (ultimately two questions...) I think you are the one person tough enough to do such a thing, so if you decide to go, I'd say, go Ter!! It's a monument of a task. Huge but also a way of saying I care about you (your brother) so much. And bear would probably want you to go (though I don't know him and this might be a tad assuming too much!)<br /><br />But here is the real question, in another world, in the perfect world, would you want to go? Do you want to go? Difficult to say, never mind consider it, a world with no baby bear, no bear, would you want to go?<br /><br />Because if the answer to that is, yes, then, I think you should go. Because you want to. For whatever reason, your brother, yourself, to prove yourself you can I'm sure there is other reasons...<br /><br />Which ever way you decide, make sure they are the right reasons. If you decide to not go, make sure you have a good reason, too. Maybe it's too much for you, yes. Pace yourself. And make sure if you do go, that you have the strength to face all the people there. And if you don't go, make sure you can face all those people you meet afterwards, including your brother who missed you there.<br /><br />My mum didn't come to my wedding, my dad didn't come to my wedding, two out of three of my brothers didn't come to my wedding... I found it very difficult to forgive them, that they couldn't leave their lives to travel to where I live just for one day, for me.<br /><br />Ultimately the day is about your brother (was about me at the time), they all had really good reason to not come, and hell, if there is one person who has a reason, not to, it's you! If this was my wedding, I wish you would come. For me. It would be the greatest gift. And I would admire you for it, for the rest of my life.<br /><br />Ok and here the second big question, only you can answer, does he deserve this gift? <br /><br />I'm glad you mod these comments before you post them, because I wanted to say these things to you! Directly before anybody else reads them. Maybe you won't post this... I'd understand...<br /><br />Either way, I wish you peace, peace, peace and STRENGTH<br />and I hope you are ok with what I said here. Please delete this post, if it pisses you off.<br /><br />Much love<br /><br />xx Inesforward tumblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13720053232446432518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6149858595771585997.post-37077036729277302982009-07-11T00:05:00.117-05:002009-07-11T00:05:00.117-05:00Oh Ter..
I'm so sorry that you are faced with...Oh Ter..<br /><br />I'm so sorry that you are faced with this.<br /><br />Do you have someone maybe you could take? Who would know what you are going through..?? Someone who you could lean on during this? Maybe it would be fun to just take a girl friend so everything would be better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6149858595771585997.post-70031717546713506992009-07-10T21:02:19.354-05:002009-07-10T21:02:19.354-05:00Sigh. Thinking of you Ter.
Yes, four years old i...Sigh. Thinking of you Ter.<br /><br />Yes, four years old is the perfect age for a flower girl, Babybear would have been lovely.AnnaBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01614241329182982677noreply@blogger.com